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Abandon (relation) Ship {Part A.}

…or you might end up relation ship-wrecked.

Singles-Definition;
A. Green pieces of paper not in my wallet;
B. Orange pieces of cheese not in my fridge;
C. Yellow species of student not in a relationship;

It seems that dating is a large part of campus life, especially on Christian Campuses. The “Ring by spring or your money back” philosophy is an ever present stronghold that plagues the student body often distracting them from responsibility and rational thought. Some students even feel pressure from their peers to be in a relationship for fear of being shamed a looser. Even the openly single get sucked in and go on ambiguous “non-dates” with various members of the opposite sex. This frivolousness must stop. It is potentially detrimental to the emotional well being of the students and threats itself as a danger to the moral integrity of young men and women. Simply stated; Casual dating is wrong!

The dangerous nature of casual dating hides behind masks of innocence and intention. It justifies itself in a series of “justs” that can spiral straight down to unjust immorality. Just flirting becomes just hand holding, which turns into just kissing and just making out, throw in some petting and just a little fill in the blank and you might end up with “just a little” junior. Granted this is the worse case scenario, that doesn’t make it an improbability.

So what’s wrong with the fugacious nature of casual dating? What is the big deal? Let’s say sexual purity is maintained and no one’s moral standards are compromised; what possible harm could there be? According to Stephen Covey (7 Habits) every relationship has what Covey calls and “emotional bank account”. Whether family, friend, or other we make emotional deposits and withdrawals in each of these relationships. Casual dating is like making numerous withdrawals from an account that isn’t really yours. Ironically these withdrawals are often viewed as an investment. The more that is withdrawn in casual relationships the less there is to invest in legitimate ones.

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